How to get over being dumped
Virtually everyone has been dumped at some time in his or her life. I
know I have and I know how much it hurts. Rejection is like a severe pain
something twisting your insides. You may even feel nausea, headaches and
even sickness. You may even find that for some reason you are subject
to every cold and bug within a mile of you. Picking up the pieces is very
tough. You will wish that your life could go back to the way it was before
he left and you will live in hope that he would return. You may even feel
that no body will ever want you and that you will never find love again.
This is of course nonsense but you will not realize it until the day you
are finally over him.
So, how can you get over the pain? How can you learn to live again? How can you stop feeling that you are unlovable and unwanted and that fate has marked you out for a lifetime of solitude, misery and bad luck? How can you start to enjoy your new single life and start to have some fun?
THE FIRST STEP
You have to realize that he is not coming back to you. This is a painful
process and it doesn’t matter whether you are young and have lost the
boy of your dreams or you are a 40 year old who has been left by her philandering
husband of 20 years. The healing process is still the same.
Remember that you will get over him. It might not seem like that right now but believe me in time you will.
CRY
Let it all out. You may cry for a day, a week even a month or two and
when the crying stops you will know you are half way there.
TALK
Talk to your friends and family. Talk about your ex until you have no
words left to say. You will know you are getting better when you are bored
with the subject yourself.
GET ANGRY
Shout, yell, scream even punch a pillow (don’t punch anyone though as
you can end up in serious trouble.) Let all your anger out. Then take
5 minutes to calm yourself down by taking some deep breathes and not moving.
You will feel much better at letting all your anger out and feel even
better once you are calm.
LOOK AFTER YOURSELF
You may be off your food, not sleeping properly, over drinking, and smoking.
Generally not looking after yourself. With all the added stress this will
begin to show. Take long, hot scented baths, play music that helps you
to let your feelings out and allow other people to get close to you and
to care for you.