Flirting
The fine art of flirting. How many times have you been in a lift
with someone, stood at the bar bumped into the guy of your dreams but
you haven’t had the courage to talk to him? Well you are not a lone because
it happens to us all. (Unless you are my friend Sally of course).
It was a Sunday afternoon and I was waiting in a local bar for Sally to
arrive. We hadn’t seen each other for ages so we decided to meet for lunch
and catch up on all the latest gossip. When she walked in I couldn’t believe
what I was seeing, Sally wearing a low cut top and the tiniest of skirts
I had ever seen with a pair of strappy heels on. (Talk about your Sunday
best.) Looking down at my own tatty jeans, trainers and sweater that was
2 sizes to big, you can pretty much say I felt a bit underdressed. I hadn’t
noticed the way she walked before but now I couldn’t help but to look
she was swaying her hips like they were about to fly off. And I wasn’t
the only person to notice all the men there turned to look.
When the bar man came over to take our order he couldn’t keep his eyes
off Sally. When I give him my order he just said yeah then turned to stare
at Sally again. Well I couldn’t believe what happened next. She began
curling her hair around her fingers looking straight into his eyes and
with a seducing sultry voice asked him what was the dish of the day. I
had never seen a man blush so much in all of my life and to this day I
still haven’t. He took our order and rushed away as quick as his legs
could carry him.
I sat there half between anger (at being ignored) and hysteria at the
sight of his beetroot red face. There I was sitting with Sally clean cut
Sally whom had never looked at a man never mind flirted with one acting
like Sharon Stone in a scene from Fatal Attraction. What has happened
to you? I asked. She told me that her becoming the mistress of flirting
had all started as a bet between her and the girls at work. They always
teased her about blushing every time a certain guy walked into the office.
So they dared her to seduce him and if she couldn’t that she would have
to kiss the boss and that would mean instant sacking or even worse him
taking a fancy to her (he is fat, 50ish and bald with smelly breath.)
If she won the bet they would each give her ?20 which meant she would
get ?120 all together. She told me that she was terrified and that every
day he was due to come into the office she would phone in sick. But the
girls set her up and one day when she wasn’t expecting to see him he walked
into the office and worse still over to her desk and asked her what she
wanted him for. With out thinking she pulled him forward and planted her
lips on his. She then went on to tell me that she had never felt such
adrenaline like it before and that knowing she could have a man wanting
her so much was just to much for her not to use and she has done so ever
since. She still took the girls money even though they where the ones
that brought her out of her shell.
I’ve got to give it to her she knows how to flirt and have seen her in
action on many occasions. As for me I had to watch and learn.
Here is some advice for all of you none flirts out there or for those
of you that want to be better flirts.
CONFIDENCE
We all need it whether it is to go and get that higher paid job or get
the man we want and no one got anywhere flirting with out it. Start off
slowly. You have to let people know that you are approachable.
TALK: Go out of your way to talk to the person sitting
next to you at the bus stop, on the bus, in the lift or even in the queue
at your local super market (great place for meeting single guys.) It doesn’t
have to be just men if you haven’t got much confidence in talking to people
then start off by talking to women then gradually build up to talking
to men.
SMILE: Every day make a point of smiling whether it is
to your grumpy old neighbour or the office gossip that spread some rumors
about you last week. It will not only make you feel happier but also make
those around you feel happier. Happiness attracts and people will want
to get to know you. You may even get a smile from your grumpy old neighbour.
GO IT ALONE: When was the last time you went some where
on your own? Not to work or the shops but out to a bar, a party even the
cinema. What was that never I hear you say? Well that won’t do at all.
Start of by going somewhere that is of interest to you like an art gallery
the theatre it can be any where you will not only meet people with the
same interest but you will have the knowledge to talk to anyone you meet
about the subject. This also allows you to practice talking to strangers
and smiling.