Dating Tips for Men
BATHE
This may sound cheeky but the worst thing you could do when going out
on a date (especially if it is your first date with her) is to turn up
unshaven, looking dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner of the specious
and will judge you on how hygienic you are, after all you would be appalled
if she turned up for the date looking like a hippie that hadn’t bathed
for a while (no offence). It doesn’t cost to take a bath and make an effort.
Remember bad breath and body odor are an instant turn off and she will
assume that this is how you are all the time even if you are just have
a bad day (hey girls have bad hair days all the time) she won’t see beyond
your appearance.
ARRIVE ON TIME
the worst thing you can do is turn up late. Turning up late will send
out all the wrong impressions that you definitely don’t won’t her to think.
Women always assume the worse and one of the worst is turning up late,
not only will she think that she has been stood up but will also think
that you are unreliable. If you are picking her up from her home then
it is advisable to turn up 5 minute before you are due any earlier she
will be adjusting her make up or still getting ready and won’t want you
to see her half finished and turning up late... well just don’t.
BE A GENTLEMAN
Hold the door open for her, let her walk through the doors first, pull
her chair, be polite to her and people around you. Women like to feel
special and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.
COMPLIMENT HER
The first thing to say to her is you look beautiful before you even ask
how she is. Keep up the compliments throughout your date such as: "your
hair looks nice I like the colour of it, your eyes are very sparkly etc.
But do not go over board. A woman loves to be complimented, feel sexy
gorgeous/beautiful and that you are attracted to her.
LISTEN TO HER AND ASK QUESTIONS
No body wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about
themselves or not listening to what the other person is saying. But you
do have to get to know each other. Ask her questions but more importantly
listen to what she has to say. There is nothing more that a woman likes
is when someone is interested in what they have to say. "I remember
once I was sitting in a restaurant waiting for some friends. There was
a man and women sitting at the table next to mine and I couldn’t help
over hearing their conversation (rather his talking of himself). I could
tell it was their first date from what he was telling her about himself".
"I play Saturday league football, I like boxing". He want on
like this for about 10 minutes without stopping or asking her questions
and she was just sitting there nodding slightly every so often and looking
bored. That day left an impact on me and every time I have went on a date
I have been conscious of the woman and took an interest in what she had
to say. This probably the best bit of advice I could give.
PREPARE
the last thing you want is to be sitting having a meal and the conversation
dries up and you are left for the rest of the night bored with each other.
Think about your date and what you would like to know about her and in
return what you would like her to know about you. Try and think of any
questions that she might ask you so that you can prepare the answer. You
think that it is easy to talk and that you will not run out of questions
to ask or that you will automatically have the answers but until you are
there and in the situation you have no idea what it is like. You can avoid
all of this by meeting for a quick drink then go on to see a film so at
least you will have something to talk about.
WHO WILL PAY?
This is a really tough question as now women are more independent and
like to pay their way. I suggest that you offer to pay and if she lets
you then pay. If she wants to pay you can argue that you want to or at
least pay for half the bill. If she offers to split again you can argue
(that is if you want to) but if she insists on splitting then let her
pay half.
THE GOODNIGHT KISS
some women prefer not to kiss after a date, others are disappointed if
they guy doesn't even try. There is no easy answer to this.
The only answer I can come up with is wait until either she makes the
first move or that you both know when you are ready. Watch for body language
and little touches but I would not advice sex on the first date unless
she wants to.
I’LL CALL YOU
Only tell her that you will call her if you mean it and intend on seeing
her again. This is an awkward situation and most of the time the easiest
solution is to take her number and tell her you will call her but don’t
if you are not interested. When saying goodbye just say, "It was
nice meeting you" and wish her luck or you could just say good night,
smile and walk a way. But if you do like her and are interested then you
have to let her know.