BLIND DATE BASICS
Your friend has just set you up with a guy you have never met and know nothing
about, except what she has told you. You have those fears. What if I don’t
like him or what if I like him but he doesn’t like me. Well don’t worry,
we are here to help. KEEP AN OPEN MIND
Remember this is a blind date. You have never seen this guy before. Don’t
form a mental image of him or have high expectations. You will only be disappointed
if he is not how you imagined. You will know within the first few minutes
whether you are attracted to him or not. KEEP IT SHORT
BUT SWEET
Don’t arrange to meet at the cinema, for dinner or anywhere else hat could
keep you together for more than an hour. Arrange to meet up for a coffee
or during your lunch break. If you are not interested in the guy then you
can make a quick exit if you have only agreed to meet for half an hour or
an hour and if you do like him then you can stay where you are or arrange
to meet up again. WAY OUT
It is crucial when on a blind date that you have an escape route. You could
get a friend to call you 30 minutes into the date and if you don’t like
him you can make an excuse and leave and if you do like him then you can
tell your friend to call you back later. (Remember to always let someone
know where you are.) Or you could tell him that you promised your friend
you’d go shopping an hour after you and he planned to meet. If the date
is going well, pretend to go call her to let her know that "you’re
not up to going shopping." Go shopping if you aren’t interested. You
could get some friends to turn up at the meeting point and if things aren’t
going well you can leave with them and if things are going well tell them
you will meet up with them later. MEET ‘N’ GREET
One of the biggest mistakes people make when going on a blind date is trying
to be someone they aren’t.
When meeting someone for the first time, be yourself. Whether that means
going all out or remaining casual, your personality will shine through only
if you’re not trying to be something you aren’t. While first impressions
are important, do not feel the need to wear heels on a Sunday if you’d normally
wear flip-flop sandals. He wants to know who you are; not whom you think
he wants you to be.
BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY
While going on a blind date can be exciting and fun, remember that you
have no firsthand knowledge about the person you are meeting. If you have
been set up through mutual friends, they will most likely have a rough
idea of your plans. But just in case, make sure someone knows exactly
where and when you’re meeting.
If the person you are meeting is a complete stranger, however, you need
to take even more precautions. Make sure someone knows your whereabouts,
knows the name of the person you will be meeting, and how long the date
is scheduled for. You may want to have a friend join you, or "run
into you" about 15 minutes into the date to check up on you.
WHO’S PAYING
Make it clear from the start if you intend to pay for half of everything.
You may not want to feel like you owe the guy anything.
GOODBYE
Parting after a blind date has the potential to be very awkward, but it
doesn’t have to be! Should you kiss him, if you like him? Should you tell
him you aren’t interested? It’s always best to do whatever you think feels
right. If you are interested in going out with him again, make sure he
knows it and tell him that you will call. If you aren’t interested in
seeing him again, make sure that you let him know. It’s better to be honest
then stringing him along to false hopes.
GETTING TO KNOW HIM
Pay close attention to the things he says, which can reveal a lot. Discussing
taste in music, film, food, and art can be a great way to find out if
you two have common interests—or nothing in common at all!
You should also look for common "warning signs" when on a blind
date. If the guy does any of the following, watch out!
-Talks about his ex-girlfriend throughout the date
-Doesn’t offer to pay for the first date (or the second, or third…)
-Speaks badly about his mother or ex-girlfriends
-Treats the waiters, staff rudely or doesn’t tip
Remember not everyone’s tastes are the same and there will be things about
a guy that you do not like, such as baldness, lack of hygiene etc. Theses
are your own warning signs so don’t ignore them. |